Some Politics of the Smile, Part I
“Smile! It can’t be that bad.” "Cheer up!" “You’d look so much prettier if you smiled.” “Turn that frown upside down!” You’ve heard one or more of these phrases before. They’re a call to lighten the atmosphere, to cheer someone up. To police their face. I know, I know: Most people who utter these phrases aren’t trying to deny the emotional richness of another individual. They’re not trying to invalidate or disrespect. I imagine they think of themselves as happiness fairies, sprinkling light-heartedness, giggle dust, and platitudes to random passers-by. However, they’re also imparting a powerful social message: You owe me happiness, or at least some kind of performance of it. On a pure, Goffman -esque level, I get that the social sphere is a collection of rituals, performances, and fragile, interactive dances. As Goffman would point out, we are super invested in maintaining the smooth flow of social interactions; otherwise, we’d experience a socia...